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This is one of the biggest secrets to finding and keeping a good
life partner. It
not only boils down to what you do, but how you
think.
Here's what happened.
Some time ago, in my 30's I spent nearly 2 years single. I used
to wake up in the morning, leave my expensive house, get into my
sports car and drive to my successful engineering business. After
work, I went to the health club on my way home, exercised, played
squash etc. Often women looked my way and were friendly towards me.
Yet I never dated for months on end.
What's wrong with this picture?
I had left a painful relationship, where I had been rejected by
my partner daily. So I believed, that no-one would ever love me
again, because I was not worth it. This belief came true in my life.
I just didn't think that there was someone out there, interested
in me. This of course made it right.
Was it because I was unattractive? Hardly, I had a good build,
clear skin, was fit and healthy, and even though I didn't look like
Richard Gere, I certainly wasn't ugly.
Was it because I was financially insecure? No, I owned a good
business, drove a fancy car and lived in a big house with a view.
So there was nothing physically, causing my problem. It was all
in my mind.
Hey, it gets worse. After some counseling and reading lots of
books, I actually got to go and take some action to meet some new
people. Then when I did find someone, guess how that worked out.
You see, deep down, I still had that limiting attitude, that I
was really fortunate to get anyone at all that wanted to be with me.
They sensed it like sharks smelling blood in the water. Describing
it as that I partnered up with a predator, would have been an
understatement.
The person I attracted, was a gold digger, having no scruples
about sleeping with whoever she felt like. Was it her fault, yes BUT
it was more my fault. I realized that I allowed it to happen in my
mind first. I believed that this was the best I could achieve and
had to accept that behavior to actually have anyone in my life at
all.
Eventually the boundaries of even my twisted logic broke, when
she came back after being with another man, drunk and tried to stab
me with a kitchen knife.
How could I allow it to get that far? Easy, I didn't understand
that I had choices. When I realized that even being alone again was
better than my present situation, I did get out of that
relationship.
Cutting a long story short, the whole issue was me having the
wrong belief system.
It took some time, but eventually, I accepted that I was actually
OK, and a lot of women could do far worse than to be in a
relationship with me. I now also understood, that there were
actually many thousands of potential partners for me.
As soon as I started believing this, it was as though some flood
gates had opened. I kept running into potential partners at every
turn, and I was off the singles scene very quickly.
All I did differently was that I had now accepted that there is
actually a complete abundance in our universe. An abundance of
suitable people. It was my choice, to accept or reject this fact.
That made the difference. Now my physical actions could lead me to
my true desires.
My external surroundings had not changed much, Physically I was
the same (except getting a bit older, and not much wiser), but my
life had turned 180 degrees. Because I allowed it to. I let my mind
accept that anything is possible, and nothing could stand in the way
of a strong enough belief.
But, only severe pain brought about this realization.
You can avoid the pain. Understand the above, you have many
choices now. They will let you do things in more positive ways.
Realize, that life will end up teaching you either way, let it be a
pleasant instead of painful lesson.
In conclusion, imagine it, believe it, and see what happens.
Remember, keep on loving
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