|
Yoga Kat aka Katheryn Hoban
In my years of teaching and counseling I have come to the conclusion that many people are unsure
of what affirmations are, how to
use them, what great tools they can be, or what good benefits can be
manifested by working with affirmations in both children and adults.
In the simplest form an affirmation is a statement of a positive
effect, result, or of a future event that you would like to achieve.
Usually an affirmation is stated in the present moment and in
positive verbiage and wordage. For an example “ I can do this”
as opposed to “I’d like to do this” or “I’m going to do
this.” The sentence “ I can do this” is set in the present
moment and it implies confidence in one’s ability to accomplish
the task and an immediacy to take action. The statement “ I’d
like to do this.” Implies that it is not quite possible but you
are yearning to do it but (something out of your control) is
preventing that. “I’m going to do this” implies sometime in
the future when all the conditions are right. In that case we can
make an assumption that the conditions will never be right.
To effectively work and create affirmations for yourself or child
it is better to create patterns of repetition in saying the phrase
out loud many times per day if need be, or weekly and using a
creative visualization technique to anchor the effects of the
affirmation in your mind and your body. For an example if you wish
to give up smoking. The best way to phrase the affirmation would be
“I’m smoke free.” “I enjoy being smoke free.” “ I enjoy
being a non-smoker.” In these examples you would repeat the
affirmations and design a creative visualization (of events in the
future but seen in present moment time) of you being a fulfilled
non-smoker. You could imagine yourself doing an activity and feeling
free and joyful that you are without a cigarette. You could imagine
that you are visiting with children who previously were reluctant to
spend time with you because of your smoking and how much you enjoy
that visit. You could imagine that you feel the breath in your lungs
very different and that you can actually breathe freely.
In working with children, repetition is a key. You can make it
into a game of movement and imagination that children love. The
affirmations can be repeated together and new images or
visualizations can be incorporated into the game. For instance, I
use an affirmation with children that is very powerful and fun and
it creates a strong visual image for them. “I stomp out
sickness.” When we are in a circle we stomp our feet on the ground
and pretend that we are stomping sickness into the earth. They enjoy
games and imagery like this immensely and it creates effective
anchors.
For adults too the same sort of movement can be used to create an
anchor. You interrupt a pattern of stagnation with the new movement.
For instance, if you threw your arms up into the air and then out in
front of you in a big sweeping gesture, and then said an affirmation
such as “I’m free!” “Big pathways are opening up for me!!
You would immediately feel the vibrancy and the expansion of that
affirmation. An anchor of thought and the physical action would then
be created in your mind. Every time that you said that affirmation,
and did that gesture of the big sweeping arm movements a thought of
freedom and lightness would be interpreted into your brain. You
would begin to feel the joy associated with that move- ment and
those words.
On repeating the affirmations, a new pattern of hope, expectancy
and action would be created for future moments to unfold. Of course
you don’t have to make a big physical gesture to interrupt the
pattern of thought. However when you can add physical movements,
gestures or sounds, the affirmation becomes more effective and can
promote a transformation more quickly. If you can picture in your
mind the thing that you want to achieve, as if it is already done,
and you are feeling wonderful about receiving it, that combined with
the affirmation is a very effective tool of change.
Let’s look at some affirmations. “I’m easily and
effortlessly attracting the right business contacts to promote my
work.” If you imagined in your mind; the smiles, the handshakes
and the business meeting going very well and the ultimate picture of
you receiving the benefits of new business and the achieving the
results that you want and need every time that you said that
affirmation, you begin to attract what you are confirming to the
universe.
“I am fearless.” If you said this out loud it would be very
effective to raise your voice and emphasis the word fearless. If you
raised your hand in a strong gesture it further anchors the strength
and courage that you feel in your body. The visual image that may go
along with “I am fearless,” could be seeing yourself confronting
a strong adversary and you looking right into his or her eyes and
feeling in your heart that you are too strong to cower, and that you
are planted firmly to the Earth.
“I can do this easily and effortlessly.” Imagine yourself in
the zone so to speak where you barely make any effort at all and
everything falls into place. Feel in your body and heart, how
joyful, casual and confident you are about everything coming quickly
together for you. Use an example in your past successes when
something came together just as easily and remember how happy and
light you felt when it did.
“I am the perfect weight for me.” Instead of focusing on how
much weight you wish to lose, which implies that you are not perfect
as you are, focus on how it would feel to fit into the size jeans
that you always wanted to fit into. Also focus on how good it would
feel in your slim clothing and seeing yourself in the mirror at the
weight that your body looks absolutely fabulous in. See yourself
very energized with your newly trim fit body, and how then you would
act, walk, run, play and enjoy yourself.
Affirmations are best spoken out loud; the vibrations of the
spoken positive expression are impactful to your psyche or a
child’s. They are also best repeated until a new pattern is
created. Create your own affirmations, or read from a book of
affirmations, or listen to affirmations on tapes or CD’s. Keep
revisiting these affirmations daily. Affirmations build confidence,
help you to overcome low self-esteem, create balance, and space,
helps you to get past feelings of guilt, and condemnation, clears
obstacles, or limitations, create new patterns of health and
well-being, and may produce feelings of prosperity and abundance. Of
course Affirmations are not a cure-all, but they are very powerful
and effective tools for you and your child to transform a
challenging area in life. Every time that you say an affirmation
with conviction you are creating a new unfolding moment to engage in
a new fulfilled, balance, healthy, or abundant way of being.
|
